Emotions manifest in the body to be felt, not feared. – Kyle D. Jones.
Despite our obsessive acts of communicating through words, the lowest form of communication, we are emotional beings at heart. We learn and grow through feeling. In fact, the ultimate measure of our success is not in monetary value, but emotional intelligence.
Emotional Intelligence is measured by the level of awareness we have regarding energy (energy in motion = E-motion) passing through our body during given circumstances.
It is important to know your emotional state at any given time, and recognize that it could impact those around you. Many of us walk around unaware of our current emotional state, or may know, but dont really know what to do about it. This puts us in to a victim mentality. As i always say, master your emotions or your emotions will master you. There is also the possibility of picking up other people’s emotions when you dont master your emotions.
The good thing though is that we have the ability to make a choice on which emotions to operate from. It takes practice. Below are the few steps to start the journey.
1: Identify your emotional state. What is going on in your right now?
2: Name your emotion.
3: Knowing your current emotional state keeps you in driver’s seat. This is process of mastering your emotions.
4: Make the emotional choice that aligns with your needs.
5: Take action. Make a mental mark to always pay attention to your emotions. & change them when you need to.
Once you reach this point, you dont get tangled in your emotions but you allow them, observe them, feel them, forgive them, and even laugh them. The best way to become more emotionally intelligent is to feel rather than resist. This is how you know you have reached a high level of emotional Intelligence.
There are fundamental levels of what drives a human being.
From Behaviour, driven by Thought, controlled by Feeling, deriving from Emotion, then Physiology, controlled by your breathing.
You know the times people tell you to BREATHE before a big event or a presentation? Emotions such as anxiety clouds our thinking and causes us not to function properly.
The beginning of managing your emotions starts with consciously taking notes of your breathing and controlling your breathing. So when you feel nervous you take a deep breath, however this kind of breathing is a constant awareness of rhythmical breathing. For an example… Breathe 5 seconds in and 5 seconds out from your chest. This helps with self awareness and with controlling your emotions.
Many people do not pay attention what goes on within them. You know the person you talk to when you are alone? That person. Your primary reality is within you and secondary reality is without. The important thing is to pay attention to both and balance the two realities.
Meditation is one key to hack into your life within you. This process is similar to opening up your Chakras.
I have a segment on How to Open your 7 Chakras on this wordpress. Check it out.